I wouldn't be surprised if Pat or Alex hop on to address your concern, but you may get a more immediate response by emailing them directly.
To make it easy for you, here are the email addresses:PatAlex
I can empathize with you, having preordered the game in August as a birthday present. Of course, it was a present from me to me, so it's not quite the same...
Perhaps you can see about changing the order to include the PDF and forward that on to the recipient to bide the time?
As to the copy, I can see how it could appear a bit misleading. That being said, I believe that the changes being wrapped in are also a bit more extensive than the guys at Crafty originally anticipated, which means that it is taking longer to finish it up and get it printed and shipped than previously expected.
I hope your friend enjoys the finished product!